Feel It to Heal It: Emotions

Category: Emotional Regulation, Self-Growth, Parenting

Learning to feel your emotions isn’t weakness - it’s healing.

In this episode, I’m talanoa-ing about why learning to manage emotions truly matters; not just for us, but for our kids, our relationships, and the way we show up in the world.

For so long, I didn’t realise how much I was carrying. The things I bottled up, ignored, or pushed down didn’t disappear… they just started overflowing in ways I didn’t always recognise.

I share a bit of my own journey with emotional regulation:

• How bottling things up is like sealing emotions in a jar & eventually, that lid will pop

• Why anger shows up first, and how it can feel easier than facing sadness or fear

• How growing up without a safe space to feel shaped how I now show up as a parent

For a long time, I thought pushing through and staying strong was the only way.
But truth is… that way was heavy.
Learning how to actually feel and regulate my emotions helped me breathe easier. It made space for more calm, more connection, and way less internal chaos.

It’s not always easy.
But it’s worth it.
Because the more we learn to regulate, the more emotionally resilient we become … & that impacts everything.

This episode is for you if:

• You tend to bottle up your emotions until you snap or shut down

• You want to break generational cycles around emotional suppression

• You’re trying to create a safe emotional environment for your kids

• You just want to feel lighter and more in control of your reactions

If you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out:

📞 Australia – Lifeline: 13 11 14
📞 New Zealand – 1737 Need to Talk? Free call or text 1737

Final note from me:

If you're figuring this emotional regulation thing out too - I see you.
This kōrero is for all of us learning to feel what we used to run from.
You’re not alone, and you can feel it to heal it.